Baby

August 4, 2025, my third child arrived. Today I received congratulations from an individual I barely interacted with in the past 11 months. It was genuine, blunt, and reminded me to cherish the important family moments. To cherish the blessings we have as individuals and to not focus on the low moments in life. Especially if those moments are created by work.

We typically allow work to overshadow our true life. We take one work as the way of life. There is a saying, do you live to work or work to live. I have flipped back and forth between both aspects of this saying. I have come to realize, regardless, that saying needs to be pushed aside completely. Work in today’s society now keeps us so busy and on a path towards false fulfillment. There is an idea that work will bring happiness brainwashed into many of our minds. Work will not only provide security, and financial stability but is a way of living that will lead to happiness in some form.

I have come to realize, true happiness comes from following your true sense of self. If having a family and spending time with them makes you happy, prioritize this, if tacking spreadsheets and writing emails for 12 plus hours of your day makes you happy, focus on this, and if pairing homes for hours in silence makes you happy, focus on that for the day. Every individual gets to focus and choose what makes them happy and it can change day to day, week to week or year to year. There is no clear path or typical path towards happiness.

Having babies is one aspect of my life that makes me happy. Yes I am fortunate with my family and children, but it is one of many aspects of my life that contribute to me being who I am. Now, I can’t define who I am, and I chose not to define who I am because I am constantly changing.

My definition is not static but dynamic and my goals in life is to raise my babies to understand no one person can be defined. You do not need to define yourself but to only follow your true sense of self moments in time to achieve happiness.